Are You Guilty Of Shit Sharing?

by tbozarth00 | Jan 26, 2021 | Healing Messages, Uncategorized

Got Shit? Own it!

Hi There! Thanks for being here! As you know, I am very passionate about emotional intelligence and healing. I truly believe we all have some healing work to do. My goal here on A Frog Blog is to EMPOWER YOU to learn healthy emotional processing and healing tools and put them to good use! On You!

Are you aware that Shit Sharing is a BIG problem here in the United States? Perhaps all over the world! Yup Yup…. Like BIG! I feel it is very important to explain more about this “emotional pain sharing, wound poking epidemic” we have going on in our country.

But before I begin, my “spidey senses” are tingling. Ok, I have to ask you this…. are these your thoughts?

“Tara, I don’t need to heal any “emotional” stuff. I don’t really have anything to heal. Nope! My life is good. I mean, it is certainly not terrible. Nothing is THAT MAJOR that I need to seek out help or learn and practice healing tools. When I feel emotionally upset, it usually just passes. Yeah, time usually heals all my wounds.”

Yes? You are thinking this? OMG, I knew it! I can totally relate too. That was me. I had so many limiting beliefs that were holding me back from TRULY loving my life, loving my Self, and loving others.

“Lucky for me,” I did have something MAJOR happen. I HAD to seek out help to help me heal my unaddressed and unprocessed pains. “Lucky for me,” I learned so many emotional healing tools to use when something comes up. “Lucky for me,” I am able to truly love my Self, my life, and others!

Aren’t I so “lucky?” No, I am very grateful, however. I am grateful for it all. No luck in this. This was “the work” of the Universe and this was/is ME showing up to do “the work” and owning my shit. 🙂

Guilty of Shit Sharing? Stop it!

“Hello, my name is Tara, and I am a recovering Shit Sharer.”

So, let’s talk about shit sharing and why I feel it is so important to heal our wounds. For me to do this effectively, I will also share part of my shit story.

While on my healing journey, I learned something very shocking about myself. I was a Shit Sharer. I unintentionally shared or projected my unhealed, unprocessed emotions, wounds, and “not enough” beliefs onto others – onto my family and friends. This really upset me when I became aware of this.

Some of my shit shares were:

• Overstepping boundaries
• Butting in too much
• Being too enabling
• Being emotionally absent
• Being controlling
• Requiring too much attention
• Projecting guilt, blame, and shame
• Judging, judging, judging (that is my maiden name, too!)
• Being rude with my words
• Making fun of someone in a mean way
• Acting “better-than” someone
• Making someone feel “less-than”
• Acting pitiful or helpless – “poor me”
• Dismissing other’s feelings
• Taking out frustrations and stress onto others
• Projecting fears or worry onto others
• Expecting perfection from others

Didn’t I sound like a peach? Hahaha. I wasn’t ALL that at once. But, being aware that my shit can hurt others, sharing once was enough to push me to change.

I could have taken on more blame, shame, and guilt when I discovered that my unconscious behaviors affected others (even if they weren’t aware). However, I didn’t go down that “all too familiar” path. I chose a new path. An empowering, badass warrior path. I was fueled and determined to learn more emotional healing tools and I chose to dive deeper into my healing work. I did NOT want to be a shit sharer anymore.

Now that I am aware and “awake” to what Shit Sharing is, I see this happening all the time. WE ALL DO THIS because we ALL have unprocessed emotions and unaddressed pains. THIS is why I feel so strongly about the importance of healing ourselves and learning the tools.

Listen, I know we would NEVER EVER want to hurt others, especially our loved ones. Yet, we do. We ALL have done it. We WILL continue to hurt others if we don’t heal ourselves.

Most of the time, us hurting others is very unintentional and it is very subtle for the person on the receiving end of it. BUT, they do absorb our unaddressed, unprocessed pains. They may create an untrue or unloving story about themselves. Sometimes they are able to shake off our shares with ease and grace. Other times, the shit sharing can penetrate deep within their being, especially if it is consistently happening.

Will You Commit To Healing Your Shit?

So….. I humbly ask…… will you do “the work?” Will you learn the emotional healing tools, and commit to practicing and healing your shit, your unaddressed emotions or unhealed pains?

(ah snap…..I feel a poem coming on… :))

 For the sake of self-love,
 For the sake of the greater good,
 Will you be more aware
 That your words really hurt?

 Let’s be more accountable
 For our actions and our voices.
 Take ownership that our wounds
 Can result in painful choices.

 Our choices can hurt others.
 Our choices hurt ourselves.
 Stop this Shit Sharing madness!!!!
 Start to heal and love your Self! 

Thank you for being here! By you reading this, you are showing up for healing and making a difference in this world. Even if you don’t know what to do next, it is ok. I feel the same way sometimes. (OMG, I am going to barf up another poem….here we go…..)

 Keep reading.  
 Keep learning. 
 Be self-aware. 
 Be exploring.  

 There is NOTHING in life, 
 That we can’t overcome
 FULLY Rely On GOD, 
 THAT’S how it's done.  

Wow!  Ok then, those are our next steps!!! Sometimes I wonder if I channel Dr. Seuss. Hahah. 

We GOT THIS!

Progress, not perfection.

We ARE doing the best we can WHEN we show up to learn, heal and grow!

Big Hugs,

Tara