What Is Beauty?

Hi! I wanted to talk about beauty. In my social media posts and videos on @tarasfrogblog, I am kinda big on being authentic, glowing, seeing our light within and “being our own kind of beautiful, by being true, being you.”

This is a confession post.

I am totally evolving towards this way of “being.” I am pretty sure my followers know this about me, because I am very transparent with the healing journey.

I most definitely had/may still have layers of untrue beliefs that “blur” my vision from “seeing” my own beauty.

In this post, I am sharing through example how I personally remove/clear these untrue beliefs about beauty.

Everyone is different with their healing approach. My intention, focus, writing, visualization/art, breath and dance are powerful healing tools for me.

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My Own “Beauty-full” Story

This “Beauty-full” Healing Story is written with the intention to teach and inspire others, to clearly “see” their own beauty within.

“Beauty-full” Triggers 

Let’s just get right to it, shall we? Let’s get down and dirty with the “beauty- fullness” of triggers.

Oh man, SO MANY of my triggers have been coming to the surface lately. Like Yikes! The more I am being authentic and true, putting myself “out there,” more of my shadows are coming forward (with intensity and speed! 😬)

And this is such a gift. (This is what I remind myself.) I truly do see shadows and triggers as a gift. Even though I will feel uncomfortable as heck and shitty and tired and maybe a little whiny/cranky 😉, I “KNOW” that what I am experiencing and feeling are my doorways for deeper healing and growth.

Anyway, back to my trigger story. 

I was feeling triggered recently. Feeling “less than” and “imperfect.” Feeling “not enough” in my skin/body.

I was being guided to heal this.  Below are the tools I used to “clearly see”, shift, and heal. 

“Beauty-full” Writing and Reflection

Writing is my go-to tool to connect to my guides and spirit. When I write, I fully allow a flow/stream of thoughts and intuition to come out of my pen.

I call this writing process, “From Ego to Spirit.”

It is very important for me to “get out of my head.” And to do this, I needed to barf out all my yucky gross thoughts cycling in my head. I spit it out so the dark uglies can see the light and be flushed away.

Below is my personal journaling entry. My writings are always quite raw, unjudged, and unedited because my “thinking brain” needs to be removed from the healing equation. I hope you can follow along.

As you will see, when I move from my ego to my spirit, the clarity, wisdom and healing begins to take form. 

I always begin my writing with clear intention, focus and a good deep cleansing breath.    

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Intention and Focus

I wish to receive more clarity from my Spiritual Team and Self regarding why I am so triggered with feeling “not enough.” 

Breath

I take a few deep breaths in and out. Then I start with the pen. 

Journal Entry Conversation

Tara, what do you see as “not enough” and  “less beautiful?” 

• I am fat.
• I am ugly.
• I am old looking.
• I have wrinkles.
• My boobs sag. (pfft, yeah, I said it)
• I have stretch marks.
• My stomach is fat.
• I have cellulite and stretch marks.
• My arms are flabby.
• I am imperfect.
• I failed.
• I am not a woman.
• I am not enough.

My self-talk was quite harsh, wasn’t it? Yikes! I soon realized I had to review my definition of “What Is Beauty?”

Tara, What is beauty? Define it. 

I don’t know?
What others have told me? 
What society tells me? 
I don’t know????

Then I just started having diarrhea from the pen. This is my journal conversation where my higher self begins to step in with the pen and we have a talk.

Beauty has been defined by outside. It is most definitely an energetic grid of beliefs that I can be plugged into. If I am not x, then I am not beautiful. 


My definition of beauty, that I have taken on, is from what I “hear” and “see” from the outside. This has me feeling that I am “not enough” in my feminine essence and beauty. The rules I have created is an unrealistic and untrue definition of beauty. 

Beauty starts and ends with me, within.  

Beauty is deep. 

“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” and the eye is actually MY eye. 

No one else’s. Mine!

So..... all the untrue layers need to go!! 

How can I do this?  How can I believe this when all I hear and know beauty is ...
***  A certain weight
***  A certain look 
***  A certain "perfection"
***  A certain way 

Tara, listen closely to what we say……

Acknowledging all the “less than beautiful” self-talk and chatter will assist in healing.

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“Clearly see” that your untrue definition and beliefs about beauty are creating unrealistic and painful expectations in your head.

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When your untrue definition of beauty is not met, your negative self-talk gets super loud. Abusive. You beat yourself down. You have harsh judgments of self and even others. The ”not enough” wound/belief is further deepened,

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This is YOU suppressing your divine feminine qualities.

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Your body is your vessel while on this earth. Love her. Deeply. Love her the way you love others deeply.

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Now, talk to your soul. Look deep into your eyes. This is the window to your soul.

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Ask yourself now…..

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What is beauty?

My Response:

Beauty is….

Love

Divine

Light

Intuition

Strength

Courage

Sunshine

Soft

Gentle

Sunshine

Warmth

Nurturing

Compassion

Do you see this in you?

“Yeah……But”……I have loud but’s coming forward. All my “less than” thoughts are negating the divine definition of beauty.

Good observation. It is now time to clear your “yeah but’s.”

With intention, focus and 💯 heart, affirm your true beauty. Say it, feel it, see it, know it, be it.

I am Love!

I am Divine!

I am Light!

I am Intuitive!

I am Strength!

I am Courage!

I am Sunshine!

I am Nurturing!

I am Gentle!

I am Sensual!

I embody the Divine Feminine within.

💖I Am Divine Feminine Beauty.💖

And……. now I am blank.

Journal Ended. 

“Beauty-full” Art and Visualization

My journaling session was so insightful, empowering and healing for me.

Now, it was time to step up the healing. I do this through art and visualization.

Drawing for me really adds more energy to my healing practice. It is affirming what I “see” in my mind’s eye. I love to hang up my empowering pictures too! Instantly reminding me of my power.

Below is my healing art:

“Beauty-full” Breath

Never underestimate the power of a pause and a breath.

It is really important for me when I do healing work to take the time to pause and breathe. This is fully integrating the healing into my “being.”

So, I took a few deep, centering, healing breaths in and out, into my whole body, mind and spirit, grounding my new definition and visualization of beauty and all that “I am.”

“Beauty-full” Dance

Moving and dancing for me is like the cherry on top of my sundae. I mean, who doesn’t love cherries!?!?! 🍒

I feel so happy when I dance with intention and visualization. Moving my body too allows for the healing energy to fully flow through ALL of me. I fully release the energy that is no longer serving and I bring in my divine light. And this is all done through shaking my booty!

Sometimes I dance and move with music. Sometimes I just move where my spirit takes me. In this healing session, my spirit was playing a fun song, “This Is How We Do It.” by Montell Jordan.

So, I carried on with my cheesy, fun dance moves, feeling “kinda buzzed and it was all because” I was happy and joyful, being full of my divine feminine beauty!

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And that’s a wrap! “ This is how I do it.” This is how I heal. I hope my personal share inspires you to see all your beauty within!

At the end of the day, this healing work all comes down to self-love. Love. Love. Love!!!

Go love yourself! You are divine and beauty-full!

💖,

Tara